“A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends.” Proverbs 16:28 NKJV

Webster defines a gossip as: a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others. Does this mean it’s ok to share private information as long as you don’t make a habit of it? Of course not, but it is something we are all guilty of from time to time.

Recently, one of my aunts shared something her pastor’s wife had said and I felt it was worthy of passing along. When you are tempted to say something about someone ask yourself, these three questions:

▪️ Is it true?

▪️ Is it kind?

▪️ Is it necessary?

Just because something is true does not mean it is kind or necessary to share. I believe if we remind ourselves of these three questions we will keep our motives in check and speak less freely about things that either stir contention or damage someone’s reputation.

Honestly, I believe there are only a few situations that would meet this standard, such as knowing someone is a danger to themselves or others, or seeking mediation with an impartial third party where both individuals have the opportunity to share their side of the story.

“For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer [who gossips], contention quiets down.” Proverbs 26:20 AMP

Prayer: Lord, help me to guard my mouth and use my words to build others up rather than tear them down. Forgive me for the times I have been guilty of gossip. When I am tempted to speak about or against someone remind me of these questions … Is is true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Amen.